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This website promotes the education and treatment of Love-Shyness, a condition that renders one incapable of being in romantic relationships. Love-Shyness produces both a phobia of romance and sex along with a lack of intuitive understanding of how to play the human mating ritual. This condition is more than a fear of intimacy or commitment, as usually the anxiety of approaching an attractive person incapacitates the love-shy person from even starting relationships.
The website supports my book in progress called The Love-Shy Survival Guide. The big news is that Jessica Kingsley Publishers will publish it in early '09! Love-shyness, also referred to as involuntary celibacy or incel, is not recognized by mental health professionals nor seriously investigated by academics, so we must help each other document this condition, relate success stories and produce instructions for overcoming this ridiculous condition.
By creating the first book specifically for treating romantically challenged love-shy men and women, awareness will be significantly increased regarding this invisible condition. Dr. Brian G. Gilmartin published the only scientific investigation of love-shyness in 1987 with his book Shyness and Love: Causes, Consequences, and Treatment, where he coined the term Love-Shy. He summarized that book a few years later in The Shy Man Syndrome. Dr. Gilmartin has reviewed the first half of my manuscript.
Until my book is finished, you can rely on this list of important books.
Because the condition is not recognized,activisim is required to make treatments accessable. I consider love-shyness an atypical sexuality (albeit one that the person can overcome), but there are seemingly no significant love-shy activists except for Dr. Gilmartin and myself. The stigma of love-shyness is worse than homosexuality as coming out of the gay closet generally does not hurt romantic relationships, whereas love-shyness is not sexually attractive.
The website love-shy.com has been indispensable for many reasons including offering a free download of Dr. Gilmartin's Shyness and Love. If you are love-shy please repay the valuable information from this site by answering any of my survey questions that are appropriate to you or by purchasing any of my recommended books through my links. Especially answer the survey if you are a love-shy woman. Because love-shy women are usually able to marry they remain well hidden, but often pass the condition on to their children.
Dr. Gilmartin estimates that 40% of male love-shys have Asperger's Syndrome or another form of autism.
For you loveshy men, here is a summary of "Man Rules" recently compiled by another loveshy.
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