Revealing Love-Shys' Invisible World
Welcome to my site devoted to the generally unknown condition of love-shyness and my new book for those suffering from this phobia of sex and romance. Many people have difficulties finding and maintaining love relationships with the opposite sex, and most have some social anxiety when approaching and meeting potential romantic partners. But love-shyness creates such a crippling anxiety on a mental level during romantic times that even starting any real romantic relationship proves impossible.
Love-shyness is induced during childhood and creates a phobic reaction preventing male suffers from ever dating or mating successfully. Many female love-shys can date and marry since being passive and coy during courtship is generally acceptable behavior for women. Love-shyness starts with shyness during childhood and usually couples with some mild disability like Asperger's syndrome along with parents who have difficulty displaying proper romantic behavior in front of their children.
Dr. Brian G. Gilmartin completed the definitive study on male love-shys in the 1980's and authored his findings and conclusions in his book Shyness and Love: Causes, Consequences, and Treatment. Unfortunately his book and his naming of love-shyness was not picked up by the academic or therapeutic communities. Nor is the broader category of involuntary celibacy accepted or dealt with by the academic or therapeutic communities. It is quite distressing finding no professional ready, willing or able help overcome our problem; any accessible sex therapists only deal with sexual issues of couples and not the more serious situation of never being able to get any.
Only by internet searching my symptoms of a lifetime of romantic failure with women did I discover love-shyness. Thousands of others did the same thing and registered at online discussion forums. This should be proof enough of the condition, which Gilmartin estimates effects 1.5% of heterosexual males. Assuming roughly the same amount of women have some significant degree of love-shyness, that's millions of sufferers living in desperate invisibility.
This dark situation should all start to change with the release of my book
Enjoy!
The greatest
affliction of the cosmos is never to have been afflicted.
Mortals only learn wisdom by experiencing tribulation.
